Some Reading and Viewing Material about Foster Care (We don’t promote/suggest any of these, we just list them as possibilities.
Please suggest your favorites) Adult Books: Orphans of the Living by Jennifer Toth Another Place at the Table by Kathy Harrison Damaged by Cathy Glass One Kid at a Time by Jake Dekker Finding Fish by Antwone Fisher Three Little Words by Ashley Rhodes-Courter A Child Called It or The Lost Boy by Dave Peltzer What Child is This by Caroline B Cooney Small Town, Big Miracle by W. Martin Children’s Books: Maybe Days by Jennifer Wilgocki Murphy’s Three Homes by Jan Gilman A Family for Sammy by Kate Gaynor The Star by Cynthia Lovell Kids Need to be Safe by Julie Nelson DVDs: My Flesh and Blood Aging Out Despicable Me Hotel for Dogs Who are the Debolts?
Angels in the Outfield Antwone Fisher Free Willy Christmas Bunny Once in a Blue Moon ABC – Calling all Angels Lost and Found Family Blind Side Possible Resources for Foster Families: The Connected Child by Karen Purvis (and her DVD series on Trust-Based Parenting) Building the Bonds of Attachment by Daniel Hughes Parenting the Hurt Child by Gregory Keck Beyond Consequences by Heather Forbes Attaching in Adoption by Deborah Gray If you are even possibly considering foster care, you may ask yourself this question.
Your brash neighbor, friend or family member may, in their worst moments, ask it in a different way like: “Why in the world would you consider being FOSTER parents?
” They may begin to remind you that foster children come to you with problems, that you’ll have DCF in your life, that you won’t be able to do your normal routine as you normally do. Some of us grew up in happy homes, where we can bestow a model of parenting and family for a child that they have never known.
If you have kids already, it may in fact affect your children. Foster children represent the most hurting children in our society. If a foster child does not have a strong family support system or educational plan by the time they leave foster care as an adult, the likelihood that they will end up homeless, in jail, or in prostitution is well beyond half. We have the chance to change their lives while they are younger. Some of us grew up in hurting homes, but somehow made it through with the ability to reflect on how we would do it differently.
If you are older and retired, it is true – you can no longer go on 20 cruises a year. If we want to help children in our society, there are lots of ways to help. It is through no fault of their own that they are in the foster system and remaining in it without hope sets their entire life up for despair. We understand how hard life can be, but that with a loving adult’s help we can all get through the difficult times. Though hopefully you have support of some family and friends in your foster care journey, foster care agencies offer professional training and support. Though no one ought to do foster care for the money, you will get reimbursements to help cover the costs of room, board, and transportation that come up for the foster child in your care. Though the children you foster, and perhaps adopt, may not give you the same kinds of affection or achievements as healthy-functioning kids (at least not right away), your purpose on this earth will be greater each day than before.
However, the answer to this question is found primarily in rephrasing the question to: “Why would you consider helping a foster child? After school tutoring, inner-city ministries, and special needs support systems are amazing and all necessary. If we are to care for children, some of the most hurting and vulnerable children in our whole country, we must help foster children. Whatever our past, we can make a beautiful family for a child – be there for them, be something that they haven’t experienced before. You will have emergency help available if anything comes up and staff that is willing to approach specific issues as a team with you when they arise. Should you adopt, other financial support (in Connecticut – help with college and healthcare) are also available. It is hard work that makes people realize how strong they are, how much love they really have, and how much their dreams can carry another. Your return will not come right away, but in the small victories of a life restored.
” Once we take the focus off things in our lives that will change as foster parents and focus on the REASONS why we would change them, then the change isn’t so painful. Summer of Hope is a Program where you host an adoptable Filipino child for four-weeks during the summer, with the chance to find a permanent family with the host family or another family. Children between the ages of 9 to 15 years old Some are sibling groups who cannot be separated Most children live in orphanages in the Philippines & have been cleared for adoption We are usually able to provide substantial information about the child’s background All children are assessed prior to any placement What are the Requirements?
Must be at least 27 years old, Background check & assessment process to qualify Married at least three years, single applicants considered case by case Catholic or other Christian preferred One parent must be able to stay home with the child. Cost to bring one child for the summer is approximately $3000 What Else Do I Need to Know?
CRI will provide extensive training prior to arrival, support during their stay, and decision–making assistance at the conclusion of the program There is no obligation to adopt.
However, we are hoping the children will meet families who can consider offering them a permanent home For more information, contact Karen Annis 860-621-7600 x 204 Martin Luther King Jr.